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How to determine if one’s wife came from God |
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 ow will you determine if your wife was given to you be God? Do not worry! This topic can be beneficial to both the married and the unmarried. Thru this topic, you will be able to find out if your wife was given to you by God.
Let us begin by raising a question. Is there a possibility that one’s wife was really given by God? Is God really giving man a wife? Let us read Proverbs 19:14—
“House and riches are the inheritance of fathers; and a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
A prudent wife comes from the Lord. Therefore, if your wife is prudent, she was given to you by the Lord. So, is God really giving man a wife, or not? He is! And let us not forget that there was even a given adjective for that wife – prudent. If a wife is prudent, then, she came from God. On the other hand, if the wife is shameless, where could she have come from? There are but two sides to everything. If a prudent wife comes from God, where does a wife who lacks prudence come from? Let us read John 8:47—
“He that is of God heareth God’s voice words: ye therefore hear them not, because you are not of God.”
If she is not of God, whose is she then? John 8:44—
“Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do.”
That is a very plain and simple declaration of facts. Christ said that there are people who are of God and there are also people who are not of God. And He directly said that those who are not of God are of the devil. “You are of your father the devil.” Therefore, there are only two groups of people on earth: one is of God, and the other is of the devil.
Now, there are wives that came from God. The Bible said, “a prudent wife is from the Lord.” A prudent wife . . . an intelligent, or a wise, wife . . . a conscientious wife is from God. Does a man have the capacity to find a prudent wife through his own means only? Should a man look for a prudent wife for himself? Let us read I Corinthians 7:27. It says—
“Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife.”
You do not really have to search for a wife. Do not search for a wife. A wife shouldn’t be looked for. There are a lot of married people who did not actually search for their partners. Sometimes, a person simply sought for employment, and there in his place of work, he found his bride. Another man was forced to find a residence in the province because their house in the city was burned. So they had nowhere to go. Later on, he realized that, it was on that province where he would meet the woman who made his heart beat faster . . . whom he married eventually.
If you search, there is a great possibility that you end up frustrated because God does not want you to search for a wife and a prudent wife comes from God. And if she comes from the Lord, you do not have to exert any effort. God has His way, just like what He did to Adam. Did Adam ask God for a wife? No! But, do you know how Adam had a wife? Let us read Genesis 2:18, 21-24—
“And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a help meet for him. And the Lord God cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Adam did not ask God to give him a wife. God realized that it was not good for Adam to be alone, so He decided to make him a helpmate. And then, God put Adam in a deep slumber. He made Adam sleep deeply because He would perform a “surgery.” He would take a rib from Adam, so, He made him sleep first. Isn’t it that today, before a patient is operated, he is made to sleep first? That is the practice. When Adam was already sleeping very soundly, God took a rib from him, and that rib was made into a Woman – the woman, which God gave to him. And Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.”
Some people say that when God put Adam into a deep slumber, he did not wake up anymore, and that is the reason why many people today are “in slumber.” That is not true! Why? Because he even spoke when God gave him the woman. He said this is the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. When God took one of his ribs, there was also flesh attached to the rib. It was not like the ribs of pork (spare ribs) whose flesh would be scraped off by the butcher. That was why Adam said, “this is now bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man.”
Was Adam aware of it, or not? Of course, he was aware. The act of putting Adam into a deep sleep is God’s way of sparing Adam from the pain of surgery.
Perhaps, others would say, why did the woman have to be taken out of Adam’s rib? Why did He not just make another person, a woman, from the dust of the earth? For them to become helpmates – a compatible helpmates. She really had to come from him so that they would practically be of the same age. Didn’t you realize that Adam and Eve were of the same age? Although Eve came a little later, the very fact that she came from Adam made her of the same age as him. That is the reason why they are suited for each other as a couple. God made Eve for Adam; Adam did not search for her. Neither did she ask God for her. God simply saw his need for a helpmate, so He gave him a wife. That is exactly what the Bible is saying: “A prudent wife is from the Lord.”
Now, let us proceed to the main concern of our topic. How are you going to know if your wife came from God? Try to analyze for yourself if your wife came from God. But, should you discover that she did not come from God, what are you supposed to do? Please do not ascribe the blame on me if you find out that your wife did not come from God. And please do not judge her right away. From the Bible, we will find ways on how to “repair” a wife that did not come from God to make her of God.
We can always make repairs; there is always a room for improvement. Do you believe that? By the power of God, He equipped every man with inner faculties. What I mean is that, we possess certain faculties that allow our body to repair and replenish itself. Notice how the wounds that we incur are healed. It all depends on our bodily metabolism and our immune system. Our immune system determines whether or not we can fight against a foreign body that enters our body. The immune system protects our wounds from sever infection. That is why sometimes we develop lymph nodes. Others think that lymph nodes are dangerous. It is not. Always remember that lymph nodes come from the wound, which is close to the heart. Try to observe this: Lymph nodes develop between the wound and the heart. Why? In order to hinder infection from easily reaching the heart.
Our beings possess certain features, which are meant to protect and repair our selves. Our body repairs itself. Take the nails as an example. Nails, which have been removed are replaced. The nail that had been hit by a hammer will replenish itself; a new nail will emerge later on.
If in case, based on the answer which we will derive from the Bible you found out that your wife did not really come from God, make sure that you submit her to a repair so that you would have a smooth-sailing relationship. I will teach you how to repair your wife.
Let us get to know first the wife that did not come from God. See for yourself what Proverbs 27:15 says about a woman who did not come from God—
“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”
If the roof has holes, rainwater is bound to pass through them. A contentious woman was compared to a continual dropping of water on a rainy day. They were alike. Whenever rainwater passes through the holes of your roof, are you not annoyed? It is very annoying, especially if it happens when you are already about to sleep. If you will place a dipper where it falls, it will produce a ticking sound.
There was one particular evening when my attention was caught by the “tik-tak” sound that the dripping water from a faucet. My bed was quite near the bathroom, so I could hear every drop of water that fell. It so happened that the faucet had some loose connections, so even if you close it, water was still dripping. So, I placed a pail under it but the “tik-tak” sound got louder. And I really couldn’t sleep because of that annoying sound. There was also an instance that the ticking of the clock prevented me from falling asleep.
The Bibles says, the drops of water on a rainy day and a talkative woman are alike. Please, don’t get offended sisters, but this is what most women are. Proverbs 9:13—
“A foolish woman is clamorous . . .”
Is your wife talkative? Does she talk a lot? As far as the Bible is concerned, a talkative woman is foolish. She never stops from talking. From the time she wakes up in the morning until midnight, she never stops from talking. She nags everybody. She nags her children; she nags her grandchildren. She never stops. That is why, when Solomon made an analysis of women, this is what he realized; he said in Proverbs 21:9—
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than a brawling woman in a wide house."
Isn’t it that your house has a roof? Where do you stay? Definitely, you do not stay on the roof. You stay in the sala, in the dining room, and in the bedroom, but never on your housetop, or roof. The Bible says, it is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than—
“… than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
You may have a very big house, but if your wife is termagant and brawling even if you stay in one corner, you would still hear her nagging. She would even follow you wherever you go. That is why if you will not learn to develop patience and endurance, if you will not abide by God’s prescriptions, where do you think you’ll end up? Proverbs 21:19 says—
“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.”
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